Clear lunacy

BBC article on Stephen Port
Sextortion
The above pair of articles make for interesting but very disturbing reading. The murky online world of internet hook-up sites is clearly a place where danger lies. If it’s not someone out to kill or harm you then it may well be someone who is trying to make money from you.

The problem for sex addicts, including myself, is that the power of the addiction can push past the perception of the risk and draw you into these worlds. 

The other problem is that it is the lack of acknowledgement of unmet needs which is behind all this. It takes courage, determination and willingness to pull away and live differently. 

It isn’t easy to move away and it is all too easy to be drawn back into the problem. 

The solution is in God. 

The solution is in coming out of isolation 

The solution is in community

Given the above articles, I have to wonder if sex addiction is at least as dangerous as heroin or cocaine. I think I’ve underplayed the risks in the past but it’s hard to ignore them when they are right there in front of you. The truly sad thing about sex addiction is that it is the pursuit of a feeling which, in all honesty, cannot last any longer than a few moments, but for the addict there is a desire to make it last forever. If only they could find that place… 

in truth, addicts never do find that elusive ‘peak’ and I spent my days chasing a feeling that never came. I’m not perfect, even after all this work, but I can at least say that I’m making progress. Recovery has to be a better place than addiction.